Daughters Lives Matter Too


This is my reaction after watching the disturbing reality in the video above…

I know it is their culture but still, I do not understand for the life of me why a father would disown her very own daughter (who loved her father) who was the victim of abuse and rape. She was forced to kill her abuser and rapist for a justifiable cause to protect her dear sister and yet her father tells her “you shamed me” like really?

She was not a rebel, a whore or the devil in the family and still she’s treated as such by her own father for protecting her sister, her cousin and herself from the hands of the rapist. The father here seems to have failed to protect his daughter in the first place and is now perhaps disowning her for the deed that she did that his father should have done to the rapist.

A real true father (and mother) that loves their daughters and sons would lay their lives first to protect them and are the ones who will forgive first when most would condemn. The father in the parable of the prodigal son found in Luke 15:11-32 (est 2000 years ago, same region where these present day cultures are located) told by Jesus shows a glimpse of what a loving and forgiving father really is.

Family pride, culture or honour should not be an excuse to shame and kill daughters deemed guilty. Perhaps, the father is afraid of the shame that the society would cast upon him because of her daughter’s “shameful” acts so he is willing to sacrifice his daughter to save himself from shame and dishonour.

But a father should stand up for what is real justice and for the love for his daughter even if the world thinks otherwise. When the real concept of love or at least a part of its truth is misunderstood or lost then this is what happens and will always happen in these cultures. Unless fathers and the whole society of these region will learn what real love is and that their daughters lives are worth way way more than all the honour they stubbornly hold.

Daughters lives matter too!

So many beautiful and wonderful young daughters with bright futures have been wasted by these senseless inhumane barbaric acts of honour killing and shaming just to protect their family name despite their daughters being the victim? Even if it is their daughters fault, where is the mercy in these fathers? How do you rescue such cultures? I guess the video above is a good start of that small steps towards educating these societies.

If only they know what real love is as described in 1st Corinthians 13:

If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

One Comment Add yours

  1. Bonsai says:

    Shaming cultures are very much against God’s way. I was part of the Japanese culture for 21 years and our children were raised Japanese. My daughter in particular suffered her father’s shaming. I wrote our story in “The Six-Foot Bonsai: A Soul Lost in the Land of the Rising Sun.” I was so blinded by the coolness of Japan that I overlooked such key differences.

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